Ask Elle: Confronting the new

A student who has become comfortable with remote learning worries about returning back to school different than before

Elle is MCHS’s advice columnist. Email her at [email protected].

Dear Elle: I’m so nervous to go back to school. This year, I have been doing school in my pajamas, in my bed, almost every day. I like my house. I learn better being home with my dog, and my little brother. I have barely seen my friends through all of this, and I’ve honestly changed so much. I’ve started questioning my gender identity, and I’m struggling with self expression a bunch. I’m nervous that my friends aren’t going to accept the new me, and I’m worried that I’m going to be all alone. 

Sincerely, Scared For School



This odd year has brought about a lot of changes in all of us. You are certainly not alone in your quest to search for the real you. Of course it is scary to confront these things, but it is a part of life, and a part of finding ourselves!

Remember: you = never struggle alone! I know that going back to school will be an adjustment, but the good news is that we will only be back in the school twice a week. Everyone is going to take things slow, and your teachers will definitely be patient with you.

Lastly, and I know this is cliche, if your friends do not like you in your truest form, they are not the kind of people you should surrounding yourself. The world is filled with people of all shapes, sizes, genders, and ethnicities!! There is so much diversity all around us — no two people are exactly alike. You are going to meet so many amazing people, some will be your cup of tea, and some won’t. That is part of what makes this world as beautiful as it is.

Need advice on school, work, love, life, or anything else that’s weighing you down? Email Elle at [email protected], and she may respond to your letter in the online or print edition of The McHenry Messenger.